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UNDERSTANDING BULLYING IS STEP TO A NEW WAY OF LIFE!
Get a grip on the reality of bullying in life
Size up the situation!
And take back your power!
The strangest fact about bullying is that we all do nearly everyday without even
realizing it. It is ‘self bullying’ and it happens every time you judge yourself!
Bullying is ‘trying to force ideas, ideals and pressures’ onto yourself, another
person, other people, religions, countries etc. and it is often done with force!
‘Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me!’
An old saying taught to most people to toughen them up. Rubbish! It is a Lie!
All war, violence and bullying are caused by ‘words’, force and insecurity!
Until we as the human race realize this fact it will be hard to eradicate it.
Thought needs to be directed at what we want not what we don’t want!
Why? Because Power Goes Where Thought Flows!
WHAT IS BULLYING
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Bullying is a predatory sport undertaken by people who have a vested interest in making another person or people do what they want or
expect. It is also the imposition of unsolicited attention or environmental changes. Bullying occurs in schools, workplaces, in the streets,
sport, countries with dictators or even governments who do not do what they were elected to do! It occurs in industry, media,
advertising, on line in cyberspace or even in the simplest of situations where a person is inconsiderate of another person or people’s
rights. Most people have been bullied in many ways over their short or long lifetime. Examples in my life range from bullying at school to
bullying in the workforce and even on a cruise where elderly people pushed me aside to look at menus! Why - because like all bullies
their only concern in the world is their own welfare and needs.
WHY IT HAPPENS
Because people have discovered down through history that they can
bully other people and get away with it. It is stopped by people
standing up in a united response! World war 1 and world war 2 are
classic examples of large scale bullying and a unified response to it.
This is a picture of our ANZAC troops fighting in France for ‘our
freedom’ - WW1
Hitler, who caused WW2 was one of the most ruthless bullies in history
but he is not alone! There was Pol Pot, Mussolini and many more!
This is a quote from Winston Churchill: "All that is necessary for evil
to succeed is that good men [or good women] do nothing."
Now we are not ‘free’ in our own free country because of bullies and
the lack of a united front! Once more we need to Unite and be strong.
Have these brave people, our grandfathers, who
gave their lives for our freedom died in vain??
‘United they stand and divided they fall’ applies to bullies and the
bullied! If you stand alone you are vulnerable, united we are strong!
WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT IT?
First understand that we are all guilty of bullying as I said at the beginning. We do it to ourselves by self criticism, the need to ‘look’ a
certain way to ‘fit in’, disappointment in our achievements and hiding our feelings or squashing them down so others cannot see them.
We do it to others when we criticise, turn a blind eye to the needs of good people being bullied. Yes - this is bullying by neglect!
So we all need to change, make a concerted effort to pay attention, refuse to dwell on the negatives and work towards creative solutions!
Two examples (just a fraction) of bullying in my life: Primary school ( age 10) - very large boy bashing my friends and I. Solution I worked
out how to grab his arm as he was punching and then whirl him around me and let him go to crash into a huge tree. High school - nasty
girls - I told them that I did not have to like them and joined a group of good friends who stuck up for each other!
Teaching at Belmont and the bully was a nearby head of Department. Sexual harassment until I stood up to him, documented it all and
had it ready to present to his wife, Principle, Education department and everyone who would listen. I told him and it stopped!
THE ANSWER IS IN THE SOLUTION!
Funny saying I know but it is true. The answer lies in finding solutions like I did in Primary school when I used a technique that goes
with the saying ‘the bigger they are the harder they fall!’ The aim of Power Full Ways is finding empowering solutions and this includes
changing the focus because ‘Power goes where though flows.‘ Even a simple saying such as ‘See no evil, speak no evil, hear no evil!’
means the focus in this ‘ideal saying’ is ‘evil’. To refocus it would be ‘See all good, speak all good, listen to all good!’ Now the focus is
on adding power to good. Food for thought!
The answer has always been in the solution. What would have happened if Christopher Columbus had allowed his critics make him
believe the world was flat (the accepted norm back then!). Luckily he didn’t he had a vision and stuck to it regardless of the bullies. So
did Einstein (man of the 20th century), Henry Ford (motor cars), Thomas Edison (Electric light bulb and phonograph, which led to record
players) - the list of major contributors is huge and the thing they had in common was their visions, never giving in and never giving up!
SIGNS AND STAND STRONG!
If you look at the young people who are being bullied there are a number of factors to see. The most common is that the person (particularly
in the female sector) is very good looking and or highly achieving. What stands out here is that the cause is jealousy. Another common
factor is that a young person is shy or quiet in nature. These young people are easy targets for bullies and yet they are wonderful human
beings. But basically it all comes back to the fact that bullies are insecure, feel the need to control and generally can not do it 'alone'.
Most people do not understand their own nature fully or why certain things trigger anger or other emotions. Our society has made young
people 'feel' as if they have little or no control of their lives so is it any wonder that they need ego boosting by 'controlling' others and
roaming in packs! The quiet ones feel helpless, alone, angry and confused. When a young person is happy with themselves they do not
have a 'need to bully' but at the moment these young people are standing alone!
EMPOWERING SOLUTIONS:
1. Set up support groups that involve good people and document all evidence of intimidation and bullying. Documentation is a powerful
tool. I used documentation and a legal notification letter to the family of a bully who threatened one of my children. I had it delivered by
registered post and kept the parents signature and letter with ‘copy held on file for future legal action.’ Dangerous situation went away!
2. Because Power Full Ways is about working towards unleashing positive inner power I favour working from the positive.
Our society is geared towards negativity but there are groups who try to keep pushing forwards to a more peaceful and sustainable way
of living. To this end I recommend this link ‘Peaceful Schools International’ and I would urge students to push for your schools to do this!
3. Always have a back up plan! I was astounded to discover when I started the Bully Out club in my area that students did not
even know what a back up plan is! It means organise alternative places to be and things to do to be out of the path of bullies.
eg. Walking to school - find another route, which is what my husband did when we were in High school. Go to the Library and be in ‘site of
a teacher’, who you know cares. Find teachers who care and form an alliance to help protect them from bullies. Yes teachers need help too!
4. Do not ‘assume’ that bullying is just a school related problem and note how documentation works in this link:
5. Learn what you can about bullying and techniques to overcome it! Links:
6. Learn about powering up through Power Full Ways - get one book between a group and work on the techniques! This is a big solution!
Drive The Genie Express is full of solutions BUT after working with the Self Esteem Club I have found it needs people to work together
and remind each other of the methods and TO JUST DO IT! Do the techniques and remind each other.
